Waiting...
By: Connie J..., July 24, 2023
I've never been good at waiting. Growing up, when people were coming to our house for dinner, I would run back and forth from the front door to the kitchen, asking my Mother, "Where are they??!"
She would patiently say, "I don't know."; at least until about the fourth or fifth time, then she would get a little testy.
Are you "waiting" for your life to improve? If you're involved in a Domestic Violence situation, the only change that will happen is the one you begin. They're most likely not going to change their ways - why would they, when they work for them?
Don't you deserve better? For yourself, your children, or even your animals?
These are choices YOU must make - what do YOU want for your life? What are YOU waiting to happen? What will it take to "flip YOUR switch"?
I always encourage you to think about what could happen if you do make changes - like a pro/con list. Remember, YOUR safety is paramount; but, what are YOU waiting for?
Thank you, and have a good day, and be safe...
#oneinfour #ithappenstomentoo #dviseverywhere #domesticviolence
*October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Please share this post, no matter what month it is, to help get the word out. The Victim has to make the choice - but, "What If..." they read something you sent them, and it just "clicks"?
*I would love the opportunity to share YOUR ideas in a Blog post. Please send them to Connie J... - beamererin@yahoo.com; or through Ozer email, ozerministries@att.net.
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