By Connie J...
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March 17, 2025
...just bouncing from event, to event, in your life? Sometimes, that's how I feel. I am very "date triggered" - and the irony is, that this started AFTER I began my healing process in 1992. The first big date I remember, after that, is December 27, 1995 - the day my Grandma died. Some of these dates, while still major, I am able to work; others they still hit so hard, I can't work. I take the day off to remember, and reflect. One example, 9/11/01 ‐ I worked it '02-'04; but in '05, after going to work in the AFTERNOON of '04, and mentioning it to someone, and they said, "Oh yeah, that IS today, isn't it?" - I vowed to never work another 9/11 - and haven't. While I DO respect everyone's right to how they think and feel - I will NEVER forget, nor will I work that day. I feel like it's MY job to remember. I think part of it is, growing up, everything that was traumatic, you just swept under the rug and moved on - it was never processed. I have now learned to process EVERYTHING; and am able to prioritize what matters to me. Many people don't understand why I do what I do; but that doesn't bother me - and what few people DO understand, while I may "honor" certain dates by pausing to reflect and remember - I HAVE moved on from them, and this is all part of MY process to do just that. I am ok; and doing what I NEED TO DO in my life. No one else can control me - THAT IS HUGE!!! Being controlled by someone else's responses, moods, feelings, etc, is a DIRECT result of growing up in a Domestic Violence situation; and I am NOT that person, anymore. So, if I "Pinball" my way through life, so be it. I have a CHOICE with EVERY target I bounce off of. Does any of this connect to something in your very soul? We would love to hear YOUR thoughts on being a "Pinball"... Thank you, have a good day and be safe... #beaware #growinto2025 ##domesticviolenceiseverywhere #ENDtheSILENCEofVIOLENCE #isityou everybodyknowsomebody #besafe ***October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Please share this post, no matter what month it is, to help get the word out. The Victim has to make the choice - but, "What If..." they read something you sent them, and it just "clicks"?*** *I would love the opportunity to share YOUR ideas in a Blog post. Please send them to Connie J... - beamererin@yahoo.com ; or through Ozer email, ozerministries@att.net .