What Does Safe Look Like, to You?
By: Connie J..., August 11, 2023
Life, in particular, in our little hometown of East Palestine, OH, has gotten exponentially more difficult, as of late. (Am not minimizing, in any way.)
When you’re living in a Domestic Violence situation, life is, also, difficult on a daily basis. You walk on eggshells, even if your partner is in a good mood – that switch can flip SO fast!!!
I’m curious, as to YOUR personal description of “safety”? Is it people in your life that you feel you can rely on? Is it a certain memory, or “happy place” in your mind? Is it a hug from your children or grandchildren?
What can you do to grow that “Safe Place”?
Thank you, have a good day, and be safe…
#oneinfour #ithappenstomentoo #dviseverywhere #domesticviolence
*October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Please share this post, no matter what month it is, to help get the word out. The Victim has to make the choice – but, “What If…” they read something you sent them, and it just “clicks”?
*I share a “What If…” post, once a month, and I would love the opportunity to share YOUR “what ifs”. Please send your “What If…” ideas to Connie J… – beamererin@yahoo.com; or through Ozer, at the website ozerministriesinc.com, or email, ozerministries@att.net.
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