"Sorry"...But ARE You??!

 By: Connie J..., October 24, 2022

People are often quick to say, "Sorry." But are you working to change the behavior you are sorry for?

This is one example of how the cycle of abuse is perpetuated in a Domestic Violence situation. The perpetrator loses control - usually over something minor, and the Victim is left standing there, in shock, wondering what just happened. Then, sometimes immediately, sometimes not, the perpetrator will be super apologetic, and say phrases like: "I promise that will never happen again." "But I was just mad." "YOU (insert Victim blaming phrase here)." - and so on.

It happens outside of Domestic Violence relationships, also. Have you ever had a friend say a cutting remark to you, then try and play it off as a joke, when you express how you felt about it? They usually apologize something like this, "I'm sorry you took that personally. I was just joking. I didn't mean anything by it. You're just so sensitive." - etc.

My personal "favorite" is, "I'm just being honest." - WOW!!! WHO are you trying to convince??!

What "apologies-NOT" have you heard?

Have a good day, and be safe... #oneinfour #ithappenstomentoo #dviseverywhere #domesticviolence

*October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Please share this post, no matter what month it is, to help get the word out. The Victim has to make the choice - but, "What If..." they read something you sent them, and it just "clicks"?

*I share a "What If..." post, on the first post of every month, and I would love the opportunity to share YOUR "what ifs".


Please send your "What If..." ideas to Connie J... - beamererin@yahoo.com; or through Ozer Ministries, at the website or email, ozerministries@att.net. 

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