Revenge Isn't...

 By: Connie J..., October 22, 2022

Practical. Profitable. And it NEVER "hits" who you're aiming at. It really IS a waste of your time and energy.

Regardless of the abuse you have had in your life, you should try and focus on being grateful you're still here, for one.

Am NOT saying that legal action shouldn't be taken on a perpetrator, either. Always do what you can/need to do - your safety IS paramount.

I, personally, am a firm believer in "what goes around, comes around"; and "payback" isn't part of my "toolkit".

I, also, think this is for more "down the road", when you are abke to move on from your abuse, and actually able to process what happened. You, and only you, will know when it's time.

Until then, do what you need to get through each day.

Have a good day, and be safe... #oneinfour #ithappenstomentoo #dviseverywhere #domesticviolence

*October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Please share this post, no matter what month it is, to help get the word out. The Victim has to make the choice - but, "What If..." they read something you sent them, and it just "clicks"?

*I share a "What If..." post, on the first post of every month, and I would love the opportunity to share YOUR "what ifs".


Please send your "What If..." ideas to Connie J... - beamererin@yahoo.com; or through Ozer Ministries, at the website or email, ozerministries@att.net. 

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