Forget Trying to Help People...

 By: Connie J..., October 28, 2024

...just be harmless."


"...one person at a time..."


These are quotes from Pastor Eric Camden, on the fictional television series, "Seventh Heaven"; which I have been bingeing.


I think they are good words to live by - especially if you're attempting to help a Victim of Domestic Violence. They remind me, a lot, of the oath that Medical Professionals take - "First, Do No Harm".


I used to think that I had to have a degree, or special training to be able to help people - I was helping people before I began my "Healing Process" - and now that I have been in this process almost half my life, it's almost auto-pilot. I have basically incorporated what would have helped me in my "Floundering Years", into my everyday life.

...just be harmless."


"...one person at a time..."


These are quotes from Pastor Eric Camden, on the fictional television series, "Seventh Heaven"; which I have been bingeing.


I think they are good words to live by - especially if you're attempting to help a Victim of Domestic Violence. They remind me, a lot, of the oath that Medical Professionals take - "First, Do No Harm".


I used to think that I had to have a degree, or special training to be able to help people - I was helping people before I began my "Healing Process" - and now that I have been in this process almost half my life, it's almost auto-pilot. I have basically incorporated what would have helped me in my "Floundering Years", into my everyday life.

I also know how to point, when I know I'm in over my head, and the person DOES need professional help. I think that is just as important.


I believe there really is no "wrong way"; unless you're trying to "Do it for them". The only way, is for them to decide when enough is enough. Nothing anyone else does, or says, will change them - until they're ready. Then just try and be there, however you're able.



Everyone can make a difference, if you do what you can, when you can.


Thank you, and have a good day, and be safe... #ENDtheSILENCEofVIOLENCE #dviseverywhere #domesticviolence #growin2024 #awareness #protectyourself #besafe


*October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Please share this post, no matter what month it is, to help get the word out. The Victim has to make the choice - but, "What If..." they read something you sent them, and it just "clicks"?


*I would love the opportunity to share YOUR ideas in a Blog post. Please send them to Connie J... - beamererin@yahoo.com; or through Ozer email, ozerministries@att.net.

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