Where Were You?

 By: Connie J..., October 11, 2023

When big events happen, ie - 091101, Pearl Harbor, East Palestine Train Derailment/with following "Plume", etc; one of the most popular questions I've heard is, "Where were you when _______ happened?"

People quickly recall, and willingly share their stories; and there is an INSTANT bond, resulting in the feeling, "I'm not alone in this".

Unfortunately, in dealing with many in our basic society, Domestic Violence, for one, does usually NOT elicit this open response.

There is an almost instant reaction of shame, on all parts. In contemplating this further, I personally believe, it is the result of unprocessed personal shame; again, on all parts.

I've often heard the phrase, "People aren't asking the right questions.", when they get frustrated with something they've heard on the news, etc; maybe that's where you need to begin.

People rarely ask, "Where were you, when you lost that part of yourself you feel you may never get back?" Whatever abuse you suffered, that is just ONE of the many "side effects".

Until you deal with, accept and put that blame where it belongs - even IF there is something you actually did do, to either cause or prolong your abuse, the abuse WILL continue - inside your head.

Do you think it might be time to ask yourself, "Where were you...?

Thank you, and have a good day, and be safe... #ENDtheSILENCEofVIOLENCE #dviseverywhere #domesticviolence #October2023 #awareness #protectyourself #besafe




*October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Please share this post, no matter what month it is, to help get the word out. The Victim has to make the choice - but, "What If..." they read something you sent them, and it just "clicks"?



*I would love the opportunity to share YOUR ideas in a Blog post. Please send them to Connie J... - beamererin@yahoo.com; or through Ozer email, ozerministries@att.net.

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