Forgive and Forget (No Shade)...

 By: Connie J..., November 28, 2023

Forgive and Forget (No Shade)...

Forgiveness is a tricky subject. People usually hear it, and their hand flies up in defiance; followed by the words, “I will NEVER forgive them for what they did!!!” At this point, they consider the subject closed.

In reality, the forgiveness is not necessarily for the one that wronged you – it is actually for yourself, for getting duped, probably, yet again. That’s when we kick ourselves the hardest; thereby, causing our self-esteem, and the ability to see the truth to become tainted.

One of the pitfalls, if you will, is the potential for “leftovers”. You forgive yourself, or someone else; then something happens, and you are tempted to say something, like, “I was just WAITING for this to happen, again.”, or something similar. That takes away from the forgiveness you extended – also known as “throwing shade” over the situation – begging the question, “Was your forgiveness legit?”; or was it just to look like the “bigger person” – which is kinda shady, don’t you think? I’m just saying ‘…


It will take practice, but it IS possible to “forgive and forget”; in fact, that’s the healthiest thing – then you can focus on the healing in the present FROM the past, without all that “extra stuff” that just gets in the way.

Is your forgiveness clear and sunny, or a little “shady”?

Thank you, and have a good day, and be safe... #ENDtheSILENCEofVIOLENCE #dviseverywhere #domesticviolence #growin2024 #awareness #protectyourself #besafe 



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