Choices for Changes...
By: Connie J..., November 9, 2022
Regardless of your current situation, nothing will ever change until you make the choice to make changes in your life.
If your current relationship isn't what you desire, take some time to figure out:
A - what differences would you like to see?
B - what changes can YOU make to work toward those differences?
Remember YOU cannot change anyone else's choices, no matter how hard you try. This is the caveat wall that many people tend to run into - hard. "Well, if they would only..."; "If you could just..."; "Can't you see what you're doing..."; etc.
No one will change, until they see the need to - regardless of how many people are hurting, as a result.
You just have to figure out what you're willing to tolerate, if they don't change, we all have a "right" to our own choices - but our tolerance of them is an individual choice; especially if there is abuse of any kind involved. NOBODY has a right to abuse anyone else, EVER.
Have a good day, and be safe... #oneinfour #ithappenstomentoo #dviseverywhere #domesticviolence
*October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Please share this post, no matter what month it is, to help get the word out. The Victim has to make the choice - but, "What If..." they read something you sent them, and it just "clicks"?
*I share a "What If..." post, on the first post of every month, and I would love the opportunity to share YOUR "what ifs".
Please send your "What If..." ideas to Connie J... - beamererin@yahoo.com; or through Ozer Ministries, at the website or email, ozerministries@att.net.
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