Camaraderie...

 By: Connie J..., July 16, 2024

...according to Google, "...is a feeling of trust and friendship among a group of people who have usually known each other for a long time, or gone through some kind of experience, together."

However, it's not a given response - there can be such a division, when people begin to break away and fight each other, instead of their common "enemy" (for lack of a better word).

This is such a sad commentary, on our world, today, and it frustrates me. Just when we need to come together, the most, some people cave to "infighting"; and the "enemy" (whether real or perceived) gains more power.

This wastes more energy, than necessary; and it lessens the possibility of "victory" (whether real or perceived).

We ALL need to remember, we're ALL on the same team - the Human Race


I have been kind of struggling to relate this to Domestic Violence - but I remembered, this morning; when I first started seeing my Counselor, Daryl, she had such an understanding of the pain I had gone through, as a Survivor of childhood sexual abuse. I asked her, once, if she had been sexually abused, because she had such insight and understanding of the pain I had experienced.

She told me, that though she had not had THAT particular experience, she HAD been through different painful experiences, and basically "pain is pain"; but not in a dismissive manner.

She had done the work to move on from that pain, and actually uses it to motivate her to do what she does every day - to "help people help themselves".

I think this is where "the disconnect" happens. People go through painful, sometimes horrific, experiences - and rather than doing the work, and moving beyond them - to where they may be able to shine a light for someone else; they lock it up, somewhere inside themselves, and it allows them to become hard and bitter.

I respect that everyone must make their own choices; but I would rather let my experiences allow me to help people and move forward - with Camaraderie. What do YOU think?

Thank you, and have a good day, and be safe... #ENDtheSILENCEofVIOLENCE #dviseverywhere #domesticviolence #growin2024 #awareness #protectyourself #besafe

*October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Please share this post, no matter what month it is, to help get the word out. The Victim has to make the choice - but, "What If..." they read something you sent them, and it just "clicks"?

*I would love the opportunity to share YOUR ideas in a Blog post. Please send them to Connie J... - 
beamererin@yahoo.com; or through Ozer email, ozerministries@att.net.

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