Behind Closed Doors...
By: Connie J..., March 4, 2024
Was recently hanging out with a friend, and her significant other. She didn't know what something was, that HE had lost. He was trying to get me to side with him on how dumb she was for not knowing what it was. Did I mention HE HAD LOST IT??!
He made a snide comment, and added, "Women!" I looked at him, and said, "You're a little outnumbered to be trying that, here."
Later on, she was helping clean up; and rather than say, "Thanks for trying to help.", he said, "You're doing it all wrong. That's why I told you to leave it alone."
My point in sharing this, was that while I've known her for over 20 years - I've only known him a few months. If he felt comfortable enough to treat her that unkindly in front of me, a virtual stranger; what's he saying when they're alone??!
I'm thinking not exactly uplifting things!!! I hope SHE HEARD what I said to him, and will start standing up for herself. When he said what he said, she just kind of shrank back.
It made me sad, and angry. I was glad I said what I said - but you're not going to treat MY friend that way, especially LITERALLY in my own back yard!!!
How do you react in those kinds of situations? Having grown up in an environment like that, it gets my hair standing up on end!!! Would LOVE to hear YOUR thoughts on this...
Thank you, and have a good day, and be safe...
#ENDtheSILENCEofVIOLENCE #dviseverywhere #domesticviolence #growin2024 #awareness #protectyourself #besafe
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