Oct. 25, 2021

Follow Your Heart... (Connie J...)

...but do not forget to keep your brain engaged, also.

NO relationship is perfect, and if you feel, or try to present that yours is; I see this as a HUGE red flag.

Here is a list of 10 red flags (***based on an article in Flux, by Abigail Brenner, M.D. - 072914***), from a 2014 article, that are just as pertinent, today.

1 - minimal communication - such as inability to express how they're feeling; usually manifests as "moodiness", or the dreaded "silent treatment".

2 - lack of basic "life skills" - such as, an irresponsibility with finances; inability to keep a job; NOTHING is ever their fault - blame everyone/everything else for their problems.

3 - inability to trust - a coping mechanism they never outgrow, when they refuse to be honest with themselves. They infuse THEIR lack of trust into most other relationships.

4 - your close friends and family just aren't fans of them - whether they're correct, or end up being wrong, listen to those you KNOW have cared about you, first; and do your own realistic research.

5 - are they controlling - it starts small - they mention that your family makes them feel uncomfortable; your bff for the last 30 years "just needs to get to know them", etc...

6 - relationship insecurities - one example is, if you go out with your friends, they don't trust that people won't hit on you, etc (while not trusting YOU to not act on that flirtation)

7 - how much of their past do you really know?

8 - move from relationship to relationship - citing their past significant was just "crazy and jealous", etc - but what, or WHO is the "common denominator?

9 - the dreaded "need to be needed" - granted everyone has a bit of that in them; but is it the basis of your relationship?

10 - are they openly abusive - I work in retail, and every day I see people being openly abusive to their s.o. My personal theory is, if they're ok treating them that way in public, what goes on behind closed doors?

Just a little bit to get you thinking, this Domestic Violence Awareness Month...and beyond...

Have a good day, and be safe... #ENDtheSILENCEofVIOLENCE ***www.ozerministriesinc.com*** #EtSoV #beaware #listen #ibelieveyou #doyouhear

*October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Please share this post, no matter what month it is, to help get the word out. The Victim has to make the choice - but, "What If..." they read something you sent them, and it just "clicks"?

*I share a "What If..." post on the first Monday, of every month, and I would love the opportunity to share YOUR "what ifs". Please send your "What If..." ideas to Connie J... - beamererin@yahoo.com; or through Ozer, at the website or email, ozerministries@att.net.