Oct. 18, 2021

Why Does it Matter? (Connie J...)

Say you're talking to your significant other, and you express how you feel; and they basically tell you that you are wrong, or misunderstood what they were saying.

What follows can set the basic tone for your relationship, almost - do you just laugh it off, and say you were just being paranoid; or do you end up in a near-fight trying to get your point across?

Then, they say those words, "What is the big deal??!"

Before you do just blow it off, I encourage you to take a second, and ask yourself, "Why DOES it matter? Is it something I NEED to investigate, further; or CAN I let it go?"

Even if it IS a fleeting feeling; your feelings ARE valid. I know I used to let a lot more go than I should have; and overreacted on other things. Now, I have learned to "pick my battles".

Remember, it's also okay to "shelve" the processing until another time - which takes practice, not to react in the moment.

Keep in mind, that life IS a process, and it can be frustrating, at times; but your feelings ARE valid. If you continuously defer to your s.o.'s feelings, this may be something you need to investigate, further.

Maybe you need to figure out what "matters" - is it you?

Have a good day, and be safe... #ENDtheSILENCEofVIOLENCE ***www.ozerministriesinc.com*** #EtSoV #beaware #listen #ibelieveyou #doyouhear

*October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Please share this post, no matter what month it is, to help get the word out. The Victim has to make the choice - but, "What If..." they read something you sent them, and it just "clicks"?

*I share a "What If..." post on the first Monday, of every month, and I would love the opportunity to share YOUR "what ifs". Please send your "What If..." ideas to Connie J... - beamererin@yahoo.com; or through Ozer, at the website or email, ozerministries@att.net. 

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