Mar. 8, 2021

Some Random Domestic Violence Information... (Connie J...)

Did you know that many Victims are stalked by their perpetrators? That is, if they're allowed to be out of their sight for any length of time.

One way to help, is to buy them a cell phone, that their significant other cannot track.

Another way to help, is to listen, and believe them. Many perpetrators are "charming", so onlookers usually miss the signs of Domestic Violence; or just don't believe what their eyes are seeing or their heart is feeling. This is also how Victims get sucked into the vacuum of DV.

I recently spoke to a girl I went to church with as a child (I am almost 60). She had NO idea of the DV situation I grew up in. Her parents may have, but as a sign of the times, what happened in people's homes stayed there.

I believe my BFF's (since Kindergarten) parents were aware that something was going on. Though she hardly ever stayed at my house; I was almost ALWAYS welcome to be at their house - spent most weekends of Jr Hi there. My Grandma always welcomed me at her house, too. Have more memories being at those two houses, than my own.

I believe Victims are either tough as nails, or extremely needy, on the outside. There are so many signs to look for; too many to list, specifically. You know when you're talking to someone, and you get a "vibe", and aren't sure what it is? That would be a good time to safely never know the difference you could make. Put yourself in THEIR shoes for a moment...

Have a good day, and be safe... #EtSoV #ENDtheSILENCEofVIOLENCE #walkinTHEIRshoes

*October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Please share this, no matter what month it is, to help get the word out. The Victim has to make the choice - but, "What If..." they read something you sent them, that makes the difference? #walkinTHEIRshoes 

*I will be sharing a "What If..." post on the first Monday, of every month. I would love to share YOUR "what ifs". Please send your "What If..." ideas to Connie J... -; or through Ozer, at the website or email,

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