Aug. 31, 2020

Being Alone... (Connie J...)

What does that mean? I have friends, like me, that have never been married. I, also, have friends that have been married or in relationships that have ended - partners have passed on; others, are a result of Domestic Violence.

Whatever the reason, they are alone. Some are struggling to deal with their previous partners using their children as pawns; while others, are dealing with non/joint-custodial parents abandoning their children, for the custodial parent to "just deal with it". So, on top of their "aloneness", they often struggle financially, adding to the problem.

They lay awake at night, alone, or in other quick relationships, so they don't have to "deal with it" alone; trying to figure finances, juggling schedules - btw, that often, employers are less than sympathetic to their plight.

Alone CAN be very scary. If you were blessed to have had a good relationship, and they passed on, I can only imagine how terrifying alone can be. Even just to go into a restaurant, or a movie alone.

There's a huge difference between being by yourself, being alone, and being lonely. It's all in your mindset. Every day, pick #onething to do for yourself, by yourself.

Now, I understand, with small kids, even going to the bathroom/taking a shower is considered a "luxury". Start small. Keep a book of short stories, or poems, or a magazine in the bathroom (out of reach, of course); and there's always scrolling, too.

For others - take that step. Walk into that restaurant. Go to that movie you've been wanting to see. Like from the musical, Chicago - "I am My Own Best Friend".

I've sat in restaurants, alone, and welcomed a single (usually female) person to sit with me. We do also have to look out for each other.

Remember, just because you are alone, doesn't mean you have to be lonely. It's all in the mindset...

Thank you, have a good day, and be safe... #ENDtheSILENCEofVIOLENCE #EtSoV

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