#NOMORE Self-Preservation vs Self-Care... (Connie J)
In a Domestic Violence situation, Self-Preservation hits close to the top, priority-wise. It becomes such a way of life, that if/when you extricate yourself from your DV situation, it continues long after.
Self-Care, however, is every bit as
important during AND after Domestic Violence.
I am learning this, myself...it has recently come to my attention (yes, at 55) my Self-Care isn't as it should be. I'm talking basics, here, not even pampering level (because that's important, also). Yes,
I take care of myself, every day - but not to the basic level I should be. My needs still come in second to...anything else that needs to be done - Self-Preservation. This isn't right...I. Matter. Too.
How do you take care of yourself? Do you live in
Self-Preservation or do you practice Self-Care? Have you ever thought about it, before?
As I said, it isn't even about pampering; though you SHOULD be getting a little of that in, where you can. It's about taking care of YOUR basic needs - eating
to nourish yourself, keeping yourself clean because you're worth it, not wearing dirty clothes even if you're not leaving the house. These seem like simple things, don't they. In the whirlwind of Domestic Violence, these things often go by the wayside. You.